datestampTuesday, March 20, 2012

Superhero

I asked my sister to write a post for me today, here it is:


I have a three year old boy. He is obsessed with Batman…and Spiderman…and Superman.. and any superhero really. He gets dressed up in his little Batman or Spiderman costume pretty much every day. I think Batman is his favorite. He has a Batman mask that he insists on wearing, even during his naps. He tells me to feel his muscles and to look how strong he is and that he is shooting webs at the bad guys. He tells me that he will “save” me from whatever enemy he is battling that day. For him when he puts on that costume and that mask he is transformed. He can do anything- protect, save, shoot lasers from his arm and get those bad guys.

A few days ago my sister asked me if I would give her a shot. An injection for her cancer treatment. I said no- that I could not do it. I hate needles. I even make my husband take the kids to the doctor when they have to get shots while I stay at home. Then I started thinking it over. Sarah is in a tight spot. Her husband is working and can’t give her the injection. She needs it done, but can’t give it to herself. After telling her several times that I really did not want to do it- I finally said I would- but I didn’t want to- and I wanted her to know it!

I was dreading the shot. But today was the day. I got my boys ready and went to Sarah’s house, the youngest in his Batman costume. When we arrived Sarah asked how he fits into his car seat with so many muscles…I do manage to squish him in. I said to Sarah “Let’s do this!” We put a show on for the boys downstairs- no distractions. Sarah got the shot ready. We turned on some music. It was time. As I sat with the needle, looking at my sister, tears streamed down my face. I didn’t want to do it. In that moment I was quiet and crying and Sarah was probably thinking- get on with it already! I thought of Sarah and all of the millions of things that she really did not want to do- but she did them anyway. She didn’t want to have cancer. She didn’t want to have Chemo. She didn’t want to be sick. She didn’t want her kids to see her sick. She didn’t want to get the shot. But somehow she has managed. Somehow she has faced her worst nightmare with dignity and grace. I thought about my son and his Batman costume and I said to myself- I can do this. I did it. I stuck the needle in and slowly pressed the medicine into my sister’s body. I did something for her that she could not do for herself. I put on my own Batman mask today. Sarah is the true superhero.

12 comments:

mindi said...

Very sweet. And Sarah, I am always willing to help out if your brave sister isn't around! I enjoy giving shots. ;)

Marisa said...

Love you both. She is my superhero too bon!

All Arrayed in Spotless White said...

word... sarah... i tried to prepare bonnie for that exact thing with me... she couldn't do it. matt did and the next time i did it to myself for the first time. so you can see, bonnie really loves you! go go gadget arms!

Cheltz said...

I'm so glad you did this, Bonnie! It's so hard to ask someone to do something they really don't want to do, but you have no other choice. I'm glad you recognized that and did what you had to do. You are a great support and sister!

What's next burgers all around?

And hang in there, Sarah!

Charlyn said...

Love to you my dear cousins!!! I'm so proud of you Bonnie for getting tough!!! I'm always so amazed at you Sarah for all you have been through and you are still so strong!! Love to both of you...xoxoxo

Sarah said...

My sweet sister is truly amazing. Thank you for being my superhero. I love you Bonnie. xoxo

Cherylyn Carpenter said...

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing!

Kim Orlandini said...

The best sister in the world is the one who would do anything for their sibling. You qualify for the best sister award!

Sarah! I sent you something in the mail today and I spelled your name wrong. I knew it had an 'h' but in my drugged state was spelling everything wrong. Forgive me?

Love you. xoxo

Wayne McGinnis said...

Both of you girls are amazing!! True family love!! Sarah, you have always impressed me with all your writings. You are sooo deep and I have always appreciated your sweet, spritual spirit. Bonnie, what a great sister you are. That would be hard to do. You pulled through like a champ! I love you girls both so much!! Your hubbies and children are lucky to have you!! Love Ya, Judy

Tim and Cindy Larsen said...

Way to go Bon.... Big old xoxo and Sarah... Stay strong... This isnt the only trial you've overcome!!!! You both are Sheera and wonderwoman! And I swear one of you has that on your lunch pale..... Or is that Alison??!!!!

Linda said...

So, every blog I read I have so many tears. Words cannot express my love. Thanks for sharing what true sisterly love is all about!

Linda said...

So, words cannot express how much love I have in my heart. Thanks for sharing what true sisterly love is all about. Love you bunches.

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